Children are naughty, they are very angry, they play pranks, they don't sit idle, they don't listen, they don't read well, they just play... and so on, the exceptions about children go on. Such sayings have become very common among most parents.
If we understand the characteristics of children, surely children will not be a problem for us. If we don't know about the characteristics of children they will appear as a big problem to us.
Children have an inquisitive nature.
Watching everything with curiosity, trying to understand it. Everything is new to them and the eagerness and curiosity to know about it is reflected in their behavior. They are questioning in every situation. As adults, we should understand their feelings, support their curiosity, let them know about them, and act to be close to them.
By scolding and abusing them, we act in such a way as to dampen their enthusiasm. Such behavior has adverse effects on children. Children lose enthusiasm. An atmosphere of fear is created. Loses being cheerful.
* Adults scold and threaten if something is done, the child is worried that it is wrong.
Children should be allowed to grow naturally. Respond positively to children's questions. Each should be explained in an understandable manner. We should have the quality to treat children as children. Children imitate others. They have the ability to learn by watching others. What kind of environment we have created, such nature becomes the norm in children.
Children should play games, ask questions, touch what they see, listen and be curious to move around without standing still. These are the characteristics of children. When a child does this, we as adults must develop the skills to handle that child carefully. Children should not be scolded or scolded cynically. If, as they think, children should sit quietly and seriously without responding to anything, or if the child is behaving like that, then such a child should be considered as a troubled or mentally retarded child.
Our responsibilities, duties, behaviors and our own mistakes are not visible to us because that is what we are brought up with. Instead of justifying our behavior and blaming the children, think beyond it, think that there is an alternative way, understand ourselves and change the way we raise a children. Then surely we can relax without worrying about children.
When we bring up children, it is a better experiment to draw the child's attention away from doing wrong, rather than stressing the same thing in a negative way such as, don't do that, don't touch this, don't talk like this.
It becomes easier if you , listen to them, observe them, upgrade and adopt a strategy of responding in a way that they like. With our oppressive, tyrannical, egoistic thinking that we are adults, we have to listen to what we say, we have to beat, hit, scare and threaten children and think that we have to change the prejudiced mind of children, if we continue our behavior as usual, it may turn into rudeness and stubbornness in the case of small children and some dangers in the case of older children, mishaps may occur.
Parents who are tired of their children's behavior and have a habit of getting angry at every small incident should practice being more patient.
We should celebrate our children's growth every moment. We should be proud of having children. If we want to fulfill our great ambition of making children well behaved and seeing their prosperity before our eyes, it is good for us to develop a 'child friendly' personality.
Author
Shruthi PK
Principal
Mahabodhi School, CBSE
Mysore
